Greatest turn on: Someone who can get by on aesthetics alone but still chooses to add substance to the mix.
Like, you look good, you’re smart, and kind. What’s there not to love?
Try to learn to breathe deeply, really to taste food when you eat, and when you sleep, really to sleep. Try as much as possible to be wholly alive with all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell. And when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive. You will be dead soon enough.
I was doing my track workouts earlier on this morning and I confirmed some things I’ve known forever—I do everything with great intensity and I can’t break commitment.
I was just running my sprints and I injured something. My mind told me I should probably call it a morning and head home; after all I had already put in a solid hour and was dripping in sweat. No shame in packing it up and living to try another day. But that’s just not how my heart works. Once I’ve committed to doing something, no matter how small or how great, I have to see it through.
I like to psycho analyze a lot so I dug deeper into why I’m this way and if it’s a good or a bad thing. I concluded that I do things with intensity and I commit because I don’t like to cheat or feel cheated or feel like I’m giving or getting less than 100% in any situation. I want all so I give all.
This only becomes an issue when I try to match frequencies with a person who is used to giving and getting less than all, which unfortunately is a lot of people. A person who doesn’t know what it’s like to jump both feet in—without looking back, without worrying—can’t ever really be on the same page as a person who only knows that way of living. Whether business, friendships or relationships, most people use extreme caution and have these cues that tell them to hesitate or retreat, and in my estimation this causes them a lifetime full of average and below average experiences. These are the people who often feel bored or unsatisfied, and constantly search and yearn for excitement, often to no avail.
Committing gives you a cause, a purpose and allows you to focus, even in the midst of obstacles. Commitment plus intensity is literally like living life on the edge every single day. The cause will drive you to go to extremes that the average person can’t even fathom. These types of people seem to always have an interesting story to tell and seem wise beyond their years. Some may describe them as passionate even.
I’m not claiming my way is the best, it’s just all I know and it seems to have worked for me thus far.
“In those things toward which we exerted our best endeavors we succeeded. The Gods were content to let us continue thus. Now, at last, we see a light, bright like that from the rising sun. It biddeth us to learn more that we may prosper more. With a new understanding we shall find honorable ways to accomplish our desires.”
—Excerpt From: George C. Clason. “The Richest Man In Babylon.”
There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise.